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9 FAST AND EASY WAYS TO SHOW SOMEONE YOU CARE! -YOU CAN DO IT!
Is your life busy and stressful? Are you often so concerned about
getting the task done at work that you forget to take to time to
encourage a colleague? Have you become distant to friends and family?
Although you do care for others have you had time to show it?
Are you even neglecting yourself?
If the answer is yes to any of the questions above then follow
these 9 high impact steps to show someone you care.
1. Spend 15 minutes being quiet.
That means no TV, radio, ipod, NOTHING. If you pray, pray that
you recognize and remember people you know who could use some of
your caring. Create a list and systematically schedule them
into your agenda in the next 15 days.
It is also a good idea to maintain a notebook with the names, addresses,
phone number and issues in case you want to send a quick card or
package.
2. Schedule time for YOU
Choose a day in the week to spend time thinking about yourself.
Try to identify your purposes, your passions and assess your potential. This
will also give you an opportunity to reflect and relax. Decide
when you will do something special for you and determine what that
will be.
The letter “U” in the word attitude deserves special
attention! Keep that in mind just in in case your thoughts want
to drift to an attitude of negative self-talk.
As you take the time to re-focus on revitalizing and renewing
yourself it will help you to have a more positive attitude. As
a result YOU CAN CARE FOR OTHERS.
3. Schedule 10 minutes every other day to call someone
who is sick and shut in, still dealing with the loss of a loved
one, or out of work.
Ask them how they are doing and pause to LISTEN to the pauses,
hesitations, or sighs in their voice, (Even if they say all is
well)
4. Schedule time to visit at least one elderly person.
You would be surprised at the impact a short visit will make to
an elderly relative or friend. Listen to what he or she has
to say even if you have heard that same thing many times before.
5. Find someone at work that you can sincerely compliment.
So much time is focused on criticism and little time spent telling
someone what they are doing right. People what to know that
they are appreciated.
6. Develop a list of folks you have not corresponded with
since you sent them a holiday card. (If you did not send a holiday
care they really will be surprised to hear from you.)
Remember that notebook suggested in an earlier step? Find
a section and add names of folks you intend to connect with. You
could even take the stack of holiday and birthday cards someone
sent you and list those names as a start.
Drop them a note of encouragement or even an email if better than
nothing.
7. Think before you SPEAK to a family member, spouse,
friend or co-worker.
Sometimes we say the first thing that comes out of mouth. These
may be words that hurt someone rather than heal them. Sure
truth is important but truth should be shared without destroying
the dignity or spirit of the person.
Try to think of the right words at the right time. Practice
constructing words in your mind that HEAL that you can say to a
person.
8. Put yourself in the shoes of the other person.
Close your eyes and imagine how you would feel if no one asked
how your sick relative was doing. Or they really did not hear your
response and tone of voice when you answered to the casually asked
question “How are you?”
How would if feel if you were home with a long recovery
and few people took the time to call, visit or write you?
9. Take the time to ask someone from another culture
about their values, views and vision.
Recognize that person by sharing something with them they
will appreciate. For example, if you know the kind of music they
like surprise them with it at a special occasion.
I am certain you can come up with more action steps. Add
any that you wish. Let them become a part of your regular routine.
REMEMBER THAT THE CARING YOU GIVE TO SOMEONE ELSE JUST
MIGHT COME BACK TO YOU!
Rosie Horner is an inspirational keynoter.
Visit www.wordscanhurtorheal.com
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